Closing a relationship/separation, be it with someone you spent only one night with – or perhaps it was even years – is a subject we don’t tend to address, because we prefer to focus on the relationship when it’s fresh and juicy. When it’s time to part ways we are normally either full of resentment and want to end it as soon as possible, or we simply hope it will never happen.

Well, statistics show that it probably will. If not by choice, then eventually death will part us. And it doesn’t have to be ugly and messy.

We may think: “Whatever, it was just a short encounter, it’s obvious that we were never going to be a long-term match ”.

However we need to realize that NOTHING IS OBVIOUS. And be daring enough to bring clarity, to be courageous about closing it consciously.

What usually happens is that one partner withdraws, and hopes that the other one will get it, eventually. While at the same time the other one is trying to save the relationship, or is perplexed and crushed.

I am definitely guilty of premature withdrawal. I’ve done it more than once and ended up hurting someone I loved and still love a lot.  I have also experienced being on the other side of it: feeling like I’ve been dissed and ghosted. In fact I went into a deep process around it, and this writing came out of it.

I received this message recently: “I’ve been dating a woman for a month, but after we had sex for the first time, she stopped texting me back. Any ideas why?” – Jacob, USA

The woman obviously had no idea how to close it with him, which made Jacob go on a rollercoaster, thinking of all the reasons why she didn’t connect with him: “She must be really busy with work. She lost her phone. She is giving me space.”

…read more here.

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Sofia Sundari

Sofia Sundari is an international transformational teacher, bestselling author of the book Liberation into Orgasm, founder of the Priestess School, world leading authority in the Yoni Egg practice, and facilitator of courses on Tantric & Taoist sexuality.

She helps people rediscover the innocence and sacredness of their sexuality, and start experiencing their open, unashamed eroticism as a portal to internal freedom.

After leaving her law career, Sofia spent 5 years in Asia studying the secrets of Tantra and Taoism, and over a decade training in healing and spiritual modalities. She has held over 20 worldwide trainings, a countless number of short workshops, developed three online courses on the subject of sacred sexuality and garners a strong online following of over 80,000 people.

Sofia has been featured in Elephant Journal, Yoga Journal and on a number of Conscious Sexuality and Femininity summits and podcasts.

Russian born, she can be found all over the globe, anywhere between Bali and Ibiza.
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