No one wants to be lonely, unfulfilled, empty and sad.

We want to find love.

So we keep working to get our relationships right.

The interest in all things relationships is very high. My relationship articles are some of the most popular ones (besides the jade egg one).

As women we often feel like we need to do something to attract and keep that perfect partner, we need to change ourselves, and maybe do some things which don’t really feel authentic, but “well, so what, now I will do this for him, but then he will love me, and he will notice me and we will be happy ever after”.

There are lots of self-help books with titles like “How to get married” or “How to be a perfect wife”… And this stuff sells really well.

The advice is usually along the lines of: do whatever he wants, praise him for all the great things he does for you, be a nice woman, think about him a lot, try to predict what he would like, accept him no matter what he does…

But some of us have never bought these self-help books and yet we all either have heard that advice, or picked it up elsewhere.

One thing is certain: if a woman is spending time with a man trying to serve him as a way of keeping him, this whole thing won’t last. He will leave, and soon. Even if the girl has a pretty face. That pretty face will become more and more bitter if she keeps playing that game.

This type of serving is first of all a way to hide ourselves. We won’t express what we really feel, what’s hurting us, we will swallow things, stay polite.

Often it is deeply ingrained, and perhaps even reading this you won’t recognise yourself. But God I wish someone had pointed it out to me in my early twenties.

I also like to call it “the nice girl syndrome”.


…read the whole article here.

Sofia Sundari

Sofia Sundari is an international transformational teacher, bestselling author of the book Liberation into Orgasm, founder of the Priestess School, world leading authority in the Yoni Egg practice, and facilitator of courses on Tantric & Taoist sexuality.

She helps people rediscover the innocence and sacredness of their sexuality, and start experiencing their open, unashamed eroticism as a portal to internal freedom.

After leaving her law career, Sofia spent 5 years in Asia studying the secrets of Tantra and Taoism, and over a decade training in healing and spiritual modalities. She has held over 20 worldwide trainings, a countless number of short workshops, developed three online courses on the subject of sacred sexuality and garners a strong online following of over 80,000 people.

Sofia has been featured in Elephant Journal, Yoga Journal and on a number of Conscious Sexuality and Femininity summits and podcasts.

Russian born, she can be found all over the globe, anywhere between Bali and Ibiza.
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