Challenges have a purpose that is bigger than finding a way to resolve these challenges.
At times we indulge in the pain and simply sink, lower and lower…
But sooner or later there has to come a point when you realise that you are so damn challenged – there’s no way out. That’s when people start to pray. And this is beautiful. They turn to God, finally.
Where in fact we should always be turned towards God.
On the other hand, happiness tends to be more blinding. It’s easy to get lost in the happy land trying to make sure it lasts forever. At times imagining that you are still in that place even when everything is crumbling like bread in your hands.
In the phenomenal world change is inevitable.
Pain and happiness can both be intense. And with intensity we either let things escalate and flee somewhere or we burst open and recognise that everything emerges from and returns to the one Source.
Therefore, everything is Source.
The Source, like the bottom of the ocean is unaffected by the waves lapping on the surface.
The deeper you dive the less you are affected.
Or you become the bottom of the ocean, and there is no one left who can be affected.
I believe that human destiny inevitably leads to becoming the bottom of the ocean. It’s highly unlikely that it will happen to the majority of people in this lifetime. But sooner or later, it must.
We will be given challenges until we manage to stay awake in the midst of happiness.
And that is a big job, my friend.
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I have founded two schools, the Priestess School and the Serpent Mystery School.
Each of them offers a journey that evidently leads somewhere.
But where do they lead?
To becoming someone who has healed their wounds?
To a deeper understanding of the gifts you have for the world?
To a clearer and more integrated sense of who you are?
To dismantling everything you ever thought you knew?
However, the only reason to work on yourself is to create space for the Divine.
So the Beloved can be revealed in your heart.
These schools are schools of awakening that offer a path for people who become true authentic Leaders, so lacking in the world.
True Leader is someone who is leading from an egoless space. True Leader is not someone equipped with many skills, but rather someone who learnt how to get out of their own way to let the Divine lead.
But most importantly, these are schools of awakening that offer a path for people who wish to become true authentic Leaders, something that is so lacking in the world.
A Leader can be someone who is very bright and expressive in sharing their gifts. Or it may be someone who serves in the world just by walking in purity and integrity.
We need to keep refining our energy body, discover the power of our sexuality, make peace with our emotional charges…
All so that our personality can cope with the voltage level of our soul.
And then we can lead.
From and for the Soul of entire humanity.
Priestess School is school for feminine leaders. Next year in Module 5 – The Leadership Training – women will get empowerment to start teaching this work at the Priestess School.
To qualify to join the next Leadership Training please join us for Module 1 in Bali (February).
If this is calling you – please respond to this call. It would be a joy to have you in the soul family.
Before you came
There were moments when I questioned whether the life I had chosen could accept you next to me, I questioned whether there was enough space for you…
I questioned and dismissed everything I’d seen modelled in the world of relationships.
I was calling you in, and then dropped it, because I thought… I was cooler than that.
I didn’t want to do anything to make things happen anymore, I wanted to surrender and to let life do whatever she wanted… and the question of whether she would manifest you or not… I didn’t want to be bothered by that.
I thought of myself as a freak and a doubtful Tantra teacher, incapable of making relationships work.
I thought of myself as someone who could not choose right, who kept imagining things about men and falling in love with their potential.
I used to be the one who’d choose her next man and make him mine even before he’d notice me.
I then became someone who was being chosen and chased and inevitably submitted to the predator: I’d just fall for the warmth and attention.
I then surrendered all of the above, gave away the need to seduce, and to be seduced… It felt really empty without seduction games for a while. Then I arrived at peace, and stayed celibate for many months.
I thought I couldn’t trust my choices, so it was better to let them go completely.
I wondered if I’d already missed my real soulmate.
Most people completely misunderstand Tantra.
Including those who have practiced with authentic carriers of this ancient wisdom.
The misconceptions are understandable.
As soon as we open the door to sexual energy, we open the door to something incredibly powerful and incredibly intense. This intensity makes it very hard to stay on the tiger. It’s very hard to ride it without falling off of it and letting it take over.
That’s why in the past Tantric teachings were only available to a select few and only after they’d spent 12 years with their Master.
I believe that time is accelerating now. Our frequency is faster, we have immense opportunities, and they come to us at a much faster speed.
And the greatest of them is to awaken.
The best scenario is to arrive to sexual practices AFTER you have done a lot of work on developing your consciousness. But many people are drawn to Tantra BEFORE that because they are attracted to the sexual aspect of it.
Yes, Tantra can give you a taste of pleasure beyond what you could have ever imagined.
Most people get so fascinated by this pleasure, they cannot get enough of it, it becomes a drug… You keep seeking more: more powerful experiences, more excitement, more joy…
But this is what pulls you off track.
While it’s fine and even recommended to have phases of re-claiming your pleasure, of exploring your desires… it’s easy to get stuck there. And miss the point.
…read more here.
There is something that I call an “empowered woman’s syndrome”.
It’s an attitude that some women adopt. It is especially common amongst those who have been doing a lot of personal development work.
It’s a bit along the lines with what happened with new age spirituality – with good intentions beautiful values turned into something superficial which is only talked about and not really deeply lived.
The same thing with conscious women’s movement, women want to step away from the victim mentality and be empowered, which in itself is not bad of course. But the drawback is that they develop a personality around how this “empowered woman” should be. Maybe some are even asking themselves: “what would an empowered woman do here?..”
In that the whole point is completely missed. “Being empowered” becomes another box where this woman is placing herself.
Dear women! We don’t need to create more boxes!
We have been boxed for centuries! Time to break free of all boxes, even if they look all pretty and are covered with diamonds.
Make the most important value in being yourself, being real, being free.
This gives so much space, so much capacity to love. This attitude soothes all the contracted places, it releases your heart from all those self imposed boxes.
Forget about being empowered. Cry when you want to cry. Laugh when you want to laugh. Be angry when you feel angry. Don’t withhold your love when it’s flowing through you. And know that you are not meant to be always sweet and nice. You are not meant to be always strong. Be vulnerable. This is such a gift! And true power is right there. Be you. Because it is you who is really beautiful.
And the world cannot wait to see You.
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I am listening. I hear the call.
And this is my response to your question: “What is a Yoni massage?”
I always felt that there must be more than just the reproductive, gynaecological or random sexual approach to a woman’s vagina. I think all women intuitively know that, at least from my experience by giving tantric Yoni massages over the last 2 years.
I will tell you in a minute how I got there, but first let’s clarify some things.
What is a tantric Yoni massage?
The Sanskrit word Tantra means “Expansion.” Tantra is an ancient spiritual tradition that can reveal the divine being that you truly are through a holistic lifestyle, meditation practices and sacred sexuality.
Yoni massage is one of the most powerful tantric tools I know of for worshipping a woman’s vagina with the highest love and respect. Yoni is the Sanskrit word for Vagina, meaning “sacred space”.
It offers women a profound and direct feminine embodied experience that transforms their lives. Yoni massage is a ritual that truly honours a woman and her whole sensual being.
During a Yoni massage a woman can allow herself to receive, learning to trust and fully surrender through sacred touch and loving awareness. She can experience deep relaxation, mystical states of pleasure and orgasmic bliss.
Yoni massage helps women to release trauma, numbness, pain, stored emotions, and creates a new healthy love affair towards their femininity and Yoni’s.
How did I get from working the corporate world to giving tantric Yoni massages?
I was disconnected from my own femininity, self-love and sexuality for most of my life. I was pretty much unorgasmic, afraid of deep intimacy and my relationship with my Yoni was not very loving at all.
I was supressing my sexual energy, which is basically our life force energy, until it turned against me and burned me completely out. I was trying to fill my lack of connection with myself by constantly overworking, abuse of alcohol, drugs, and unhealthy intimate relationships.
I couldn’t feel anything anymore, especially not my Yoni.
As I came across Tantra for the first time in India, my life completely changed. It reminded me of the divine being that I am and helped me to embrace my body, spirit and sexuality as one and not separate from each other.
I will always remember my first Yoni massage. I was excited and scared, and this mixture is absolutely normal for most women. I chose to go to a woman as this felt much more comfortable and safe for me at the beginning.
After my first session I felt worshipped, honoured in my femininity, loved, nourished, fully alive and whole as a woman. Many sessions followed, each very unique, magical and transformative.
A spontaneous response I often hear from women after a session is: “Every woman need to receive a Yoni massage.” I agree, as a woman.
As I did my Yoni massage training, I felt like being in an ancient temple, sharing this healing art with 25 other Priestesses. I was inhaling and remembering all the sacred knowledge. I felt that I had done this work before and I came here to bring it back into light.
Sexual energy is healing. It is the most natural medicine in the world. I remember I came to this course with a beginning of a really bad cold and it was gone on day two.
Why the feminine needs sexual healing?
Women are still influenced by centuries of patriarchal repression, conditioning, shame and guilt around being women- their bodies and their sexuality. Through Feminism we managed to liberate ourselves from the outside by living our sexuality freely, but most women don’t feel truly released from within.
We are lacking education. Porn shows us what a woman’s vagina should look like and how she “works”.
We trust doctors more than ourselves. Some of my clients are gynecologists and midwifes, and after their first session they often say that they discovered so many areas of their Yoni they had never been aware of.
We show our Yoni’s to our intimate partners, some of them we just met a couple of hours before. But have you ever had a deeper look at your Yoni yourself?
Take a mirror and look at her. This is homework I highly recommend.
Many women ask me if their Yoni is normal. Yes she is!
She is absolutely beautiful, magical and divine. Each Yoni is so different- like a flower. It is empowering to claim your feminine power back and see your Yoni as a natural part of your body. The most sacred one!
We also go for a foot massage, right? Why not dedicate time and energy for our most delicate space.
What will I get out of a Yoni massage session?
As in other parts of our bodies, we tend to carry a lot of tension, emotions and memories in our Yonis. She is so receptive and absorbs everything like a sponge.
If there is no blood and energy flow, we usually experience numbness. This is a very common reason why women come for a Yoni massage.
When I talk about stored memories I not only mean severe sexual traumas but also the smaller and more unconscious moments of a woman’s life, where we haven’t taken care of our Yonis or where our boundaries have been crossed. An unpleasant first intercourse, every encounter without her being really ready for
it, every pleased YES that would have been a honest NO.
Painful childbirth, surgeries or the regular pap smear what many of us don’t like for a good reason.
Everything we don’t want to feel we push “down” into our Yonis. It makes me sad when I hear a woman talking about her Yoni as “down there,” as if she would not be a part of her body.
Many women have been sexually abused or carry trauma from the generation of their mother lineages before. We can talk a million times about it and bless psychotherapy, as it has its own place, but the memory will still be stored in our cells.
Through Yoni massage you will learn about your feminine sexuality and bring new awareness to areas where sexual pleasure is available.
By healing trauma, shame, guilt and negative believes that you may have regarding your Yoni and
your sexual energy you open the gate for deep fulfilling orgasm’s.
As you take responsibility for your own sexual wellbeing, you will enhance self-esteem, creativity and deepen your sense of intimacy with yourself and others.
How to find the right therapist?
There are a variety of modalities like tantric Yoni massages, Yoni mapping or de-armouring. And every therapist works differently.
The main qualities I find very important from my own experience are presence, integrity and an open heart and mind. Trust your intuition and ask friends or other women for recommendations.
A professional therapist will talk with you about your needs, desires and boundaries that you have before the session. And I have to make an important note here: Yoni massage does not involve intercourse!
What’s happening in detail?
A woman needs to feel safe and loved to fully open. For this to happen the whole body of a woman is worshiped fist.
A tantric Yoni massage generally starts with mediation, eye gazing or some breathing. Followed by a full body massage where the woman can just relax, allowing her self to surrender and fully receive.
It’s good to communicate how certain strokes feel, if she wants more or less pressure, or if anything is coming up emotionally. A Yoni massage has no goal at all.
There is nothing to achieve, change or fix. Whatever a woman is experiencing is absolutely perfect and welcome.
Before I begin to touch the Yoni, I always ask my clients for permission. This is a very important and empowering part of the ritual.
The Yoni likes to be approached gently from the outside to the inside through different kinds of touch, pressure and movements. By leading with presence, moving slowly and listening deeply to what is needed in any moment the ordinary magic of tantric healing is happening.
Why Yoni massage will change the world?
In the same way we honour our Yonis, the seat of the divine, we honour the earth, the giver of all life. How we treat her shows how we care for the feminine in our lives.
When we begin to express gratitude for the beauty of nature and our precious bodies, we begin to honour the Great Mother of all existence. Yoni massage helps us to remember who we truly are as women.
It creates intimacy and opens us to experience a deeper connection with our self, our partner and the world.
If a man commit to really love, value and worship the Yoni of a woman, he will not only give the woman and himself a great gift, he will also change the whole world.