It also means the sacred temple, the gateway to the Universe and the Source. When we hear people speak about feminine empowerment, there are so many concepts around it, but not many people speak about the relationship of a woman to her vulva, her vagina, her yoni. Yet, that’s where the feminine empowerment should start. So many women don’t have a deep love and connection with their yoni.
Yoni has been shamed for centuries. She was labeled as stinky, ugly, disgusting area “down there”. This disconnect is the REAL cause of common issues such as low libido, recurring infections, PCOS, uterine prolapse, endometriosis, menstrual cramps, excessive bleeding and others. Many yonis hardly receive any loving touch… And even less receive praise and are looked at with awe and admiration. Most yonis are not appreciated for the magical and mystical place they really are. Without that, our yonis fall asleep. Or sometimes they even fall into a coma. When we activate the yoni and our connection to her we start owning our power. We start accessing her intuition… And her intuition is always spot on.
The best scenario for day one of your period is to just lie in bed all day. Because that’s when you lose the most blood (and therefore – vital force) and if you move and agitate yourself – you will be losing even more.
I will share soon why (and how) we should try to bleed as little as possible. But today I want to share about the most awesome way to bleed – it’s called Free Bleeding.
Free Bleeding is the practice of menstruating without blocking or collecting the period flow.
Our menstrual flow is not constant.
A woman can become so connected to her womb that she feels exactly when she needs to release the blood. In that moment she goes into nature, squats and releases the blood to the Earth (ideally).
If a woman lives away from nature, she can simply release the blood into the toilet. Up until that moment she will squeeze the muscles of her cervix and hold the blood. That’s it!
If you are keen, try it at home first. And when you go out a small reusable pad will keep you safe for times where there is no bathroom around.
There is nothing healthy about using conventional pads and tampons – they are made out of bleached synthetic materials which is not only unsafe health wise but also contributes to unpleasant odour.
On top of that the use of conventional hygiene methods promotes the idea that there is something dirty about menstruation. When there is absolutely nothing dirty about it.
Plus, if you free bleed the amount of the blood you lose will diminish and the length of your period will shorten.
For women this process is usually associated with a sense of grief, failure and even guilt. Also, the
question: why me!?
For men it can also be very emotional, they may be feeling like they don’t deserve to be a father or that they did something wrong. But usually what’s even more intense for a man is being there with his woman as she is going through her emotional ride…
Some couples become closer through this process, others break up.
I want to share something very important here.
While it is important that you give space to and process the emotions it causes, you need to know that on an energetic level miscarriage is nothing but a cleansing mechanism.
It is not a loss of a child.
What you are releasing is not a human being. The soul enters the fetus only at about 4 months into pregnancy. Before that it’s just physical matter and energy.
In the past, when it was normal for women to have up to 9 or even 12 children, miscarriages happened a lot more frequently. And usually went almost unnoticed.
Many women learn to disown their bodies, and often our precious breasts is where it all starts.
Our breasts have a yang quality to them – they are very visible, even if covered by layers of clothing. From an early age we have all gotten messages from the media about the ideal breast size, the perfect breast shape. And if we feel like we don’t measure up – we start to disconnect from our breasts.
Some women go all the way and even physically cut off their breasts and replace them with implants.
And once we disconnect from them they simply go numb.
When in their natural state our breasts are our love center because they sit on either side of our spiritual heart or anahata chakra. They represent the external expression of our heart energy. Also, they are sensual and orgasmic. Yes, breast orgasm is one of the forms of orgasm in tantra. And it is a delightful one!
Breasts come in such a variety of sizes, shapes and colors, and they are a great starting point for women to love our bodies.
Handling menstrual flow is something that each and every woman has to deal with. Papyrus was first used in ancient Egypt, then reusable sanitary belts, and after that disposable pads. Most of these options were not that reliable until tampons were developed in the 1930′s, revolutionizing feminine hygiene.
However recent research has shown that tampons can be dangerous for a woman’s health. Let’s look into the health risks of tampons and explore the healthy alternatives.
Health risk of tampons
1. Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS)
TSS develops in the body when the common bacteria, Staphylococcus Aureus, produces a toxin which is absorbed into the bloodstream. The toxin rapidly overwhelms the immune system and attacks the major organs, leading to kidney failure, collapse of the lungs and in severe cases, cardiac arrest. Alarmingly, 50% of all known cases of Toxic Shock are result of women using tampons!
Symptoms of TSS are: sore throat, aching muscles, high temperature, vomiting, watery diarrhea, red rash, confusion, dizziness,very low blood pressure. Only one or two symptoms may occur, and they do not necessarily occur all at once and may not persist. If you are experiencing any of these, remove the tampon right away and go to the hospital and insist on getting a blood test.
2. Chemicals in Tampons
Rayon is the main ingredient in generic tampons. It’s a fiber that is made from cellulose fibers. Cellulose is a natural fiber, but to produce Rayon chemical procedures are needed that include: carbon disulphide, sulphuric acid, chlorine and caustic soda. Side effects from exposure to too much Rayon can include: nausea, vomiting, chest pain, headaches and many others.
Tampons are also bleached using chlorine, which results in the production of dioxin, which in turn is linked to breast cancer, endometriosis, immune system suppression and various other ailments.
3. Tampons can cause infections
Tampon use causes micro lacerations (tiny wounds) every time you insert one and pull it out, leaving your vagina wall more exposed to any infection or disease.
4. Tampons disturb the PH-Balance
Tampons absorb your flow but they also absorb all the moisture that is very important to keep your ph and vagina healthy.
5. Tampons cause odor
You may remember from my previous article there is nothing toxic, dirty or smelly about our menstrual blood. But as soon as the tampon is inserted the process of oxidation starts and bacteria develops which explains that funky smell.
6. Tampons leave chemical residue in your vagina
Loose fibers are left behind in your vagina, which your body eventually flushes out but until then you have chemicals stored in your body and these can cause bladder or vaginal infections, and TSS. Some of the fibers might also get stuck in the cervix, which might cause uterine infection.
If you want to test this, take a tampon and jiggle it in a glass a water and see what happens to the fibers!
7. I’ve heard some people say that some tampons have special chemicals that make you bleed more. So you buy more.
The womb is a physical metaphor for consciousness itself, the void, the place of nothingness, from which all life emerges, the emptiness which is actually the fullness of all life. A place of pure potential, formless, yet the essence of all forms.
Menstruation, that monthly bleeding that all women share, unites us no matter what else sets us apart. At any one time on this planet, millions of women are bleeding.
Conscious menstruation refers to the profound awakening that is possible when we embrace our monthly bleeding with deep awareness and self-love.
It’s interesting that many women have their menstruation either around the full Moon or new Moon. Menstruation is also called “moontime” in some ancient cultures. There is a great connectedness to the natural cycles in nature and we are all synced in.
Just as the Moon waxes (or grows outward into the night sky) until it becomes full and then wanes (or gets smaller) as if moving back into itself – so do we. Sometimes she shows up fully, open, bright, reaching out. Other times – she covers her face, retreats, falls back, quiets herself. We can be in the same pattern as the Moon. I find it really beautiful.
The moon is the most feminine planet. It is changeable in the same way as us – ever changing women. So what happens during the New Moon is exactly what happens with us when we bleed – we hide and internalize. And Full Moon corresponds to the time of ovulation – the time when we are at the peak of ourselves, feeling energetic and social. As the Moon uncovers her face we uncover ours. We get more and more active, putting things into action.